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Thomas Oakley

Thomas R Oakley Jr.

Monday, November 3rd, 1975 - Sunday, October 11th, 2020
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Obituary

Thomas R. Oakley Jr.

Barrington, NH - Thomas R. Oakley Jr. age 44 passed unexpectedly surrounded by his loving family on Sunday October 11, 2020 at Frisbie Memorial Hospital in Rochester NH.

Born November 3, 1975, Tom graduated from Dover High School in 1994 and from the University of New Hampshire in 1998 with a BS in Business Administration. He enjoyed his work at the National Visa Center in Portsmouth, NH.

Tom married his high school sweetheart Julie Chase in 2009. In his free time, he enjoyed outdoor activities with family, playing disc golf, gaming, and creating new recipes. Tom loved animals of all kinds, especially his dog Mac. He was passionate about helping others through community volunteering and was a founding member of the Barrington Lions Club.

Tom was a friend to many and will be greatly missed by his family and friends. He is survived by his wife Julie Oakley and daughter Emma, his parents Nancy and Tom Oakley Sr. of Barrington, his sister and her husband Denise and Peter Maurice and their children Rachel and Alexander of Barre VT, and a large extended family.

Family and friends will be welcomed at calling hours on Saturday October 17 from 1:00pm to 2:30pm at Purdy Memorial Chapel, 2 Concord Road in Lee, NH.

In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to a charity that was near and dear to Tom’s heart: Child’s Play, which provides toys and games to hospitalized children. Donations may be made at childsplaycharity.org.

To express condolences online, please visit https://www.purdyfuneralservice.com/local-obituaries.
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Service Details

  • Visitation

    Saturday, October 17th, 2020 | 1:00pm - 2:30pm
    When
    Saturday, October 17th, 2020 1:00pm - 2:30pm
    Location
    Purdy Memorial Chapel
    Address
    2 Concord Rd. Rt.4
    Lee, New Hampshire 03861
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  • Graveside Service

    Saturday, October 17th, 2020 | 10:00am
    When
    Saturday, October 17th, 2020 10:00am
    Location
    Oyster River Crematory
    Address
    2 Concord Road Rt 4
    Barrington, NH 03825
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    Notes
    Organ donation; Graveside service on Sat 10/17/2020 @ 10am; Visitation on Sat 10/17/2020 @ 1:00pm-2:30pm @ PMC-LEE
  • Interment

    Location
    Pine Grove Cemetery
    Address
    Rt 9
    Barrington, NH 03825
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Michael Chandler

Posted at 11:31pm
Tom was one of the best people I have known and I’m sincerely sorry to hear of his passing. We were close friends in high school and even roomed together during our freshman year of college. I’ll always remember him for his humor, intelligence, wit, and kindness. He was someone that you could always count on and he asked for so little in return. And while we lost touch over the years, I can only imagine he became an amazing husband and father. Tom will live on in the memories of his friends and family, and I hope his goodness inspires each of us every day.

Please accept my sincerest condolences.
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Thomas Hemlock

Posted at 12:47pm
Although many years have passed, it seems such a short time ago that we enjoyed a trip to Disney World with Tom, Denise, Missy, and John’s three nieces. It was during this trip we realized what a wonderful sense of humor Tom had and what a joy he was to spend time with. These traits remained and were apparent each time we saw him on our trips to the East coast. We will miss Tom and treasure these memories. Our condolences to Nancy, Tom, Julie, Emma, Denise, Peter and family. Tom and John
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Ryan Ruel

Posted at 08:02am
I met Tom when he and his family first moved to Barrington from Pease Air Force Base. We became fast friends.

I have fond memories of us playing video games, riding bikes, exploring trails in the woods... Trips to Calef's Country Store for penny candy, and summers in their backyard pool on Castle Rock Road... Rides to Dover High in his mom's giant boat of a car (Betsy?). I was there when he met Julie in high school and then we both eventually move on to UNH.

Life took us in different directions as we got older, but I am so appreciative of those times we did have together.

You will be sorely missed, Tom!

My sincerest condolences to Julie and Emma, Nancy and Tom, and Dee and her family.
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Rebecca

Posted at 07:02am
I'm so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. I enjoyed working with him, and I enjoyed his dry wit. You are in my prayers as you navigate this challenging time.
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Gene

Posted at 09:26pm
I would just like to share my condolences with the family, I first met Tom at the University of New Hampshire and enjoyed seeing him around campus, fast forward a few years and many other students that I knew from UNH and I am employed at the national Visa Center then I would just like to share my condolences with the family, I first met Tom at the University of New Hampshire and enjoyed seeing him around campus, fast forward a few years and many other students that I knew from UNH and I am employed at the national Visa Center at now. He told me he knew me from the University and I couldn’t remember him, recently he gave me a ride home and mentioned so many of the students I made friends with that I felt I knew them for years. God bless you all, and please keep his memories alive.
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